Every parent or care-taker can sometimes feel overwhelmed; it’s a lot to take on when you’re responsible for a living, breathing little human being. When your child is on the spectrum, that feeling can be even more intense.

How do I support my child in a world that often seems illogical to them? How do I help them navigate emotions that aren’t easily understood, or cope with sounds, smells, and tastes that feel overwhelming, causing panic, anger, or fear?

And how do I handle the looks from others when my child’s emotions burst out because their brain quickly becomes overstimulated? Often, you can see it in their eyes: “Learn to raise your child properly.”
And despite doing everything in your power, you may still feel like you’re not enough or that you’re doing something wrong - disappointing yourself and your child.

I recognize this all too well. My son is on the spectrum and was diagnosed with Asperger’s when he was five years old. That diagnosis brought many pieces of the puzzle into place for me.

I also discovered that my then-husband had Asperger’s, as I started to recognize many of the same traits in him. While my ex-husband refused to accept the diagnosis for our son and himself, I chose to focus on how I could best support my son.

For every parent, there are milestones, such as the first steps, the first smile, the first words, potty training, learning to write, read, swim, etc. Those 'small' milestones are celebrated by all parents, but the milestones for a child on the spectrum are often not small at all, but actually enormous! As a parent, you can be proud—your guidance and constant care have helped achieve those milestones.

 

There are many tools that can help and support you in this journey. And I am happy to share them with you. But my biggest lesson? I was not able to support my son when I myself was not calm, was not practicing self-care, had an unbalanced nervous system, and my brain was not able to see beyond just my work/job and the 24/7 care for my son. I could and can only be an amazing parent to my child, be a loving partner and a happy, healthy human being when I also do what’s best for myself - when I feel good and confident.

Over the years, I’ve deepened my understanding of how to put this into practice. If I had known what I know now when my son was younger, I could have avoided many frustrations, feelings of sadness, feeling isolated and in pain. You even go through a grieving period, because you have to say goodbye to the hopes and wishes you had as a parent when your child was still unborn or a baby. That grief is allowed, and feelings of guilt about it are unnecessary, though often present.

I am happy to help you learn to change your thinking pattern, to discover why you might have negative thought patterns and how to transform them into a positive vision of the life you are creating together.

That’s why I want to share my insights, tools and knowledge with parents who sometimes feel overwhelmed, looking for support, and are searching for answers. Parents who are open to discovering the wonderful world of their child and themselves.

Together, we will work towards your desired outcome, we discover how to bring balance into your life, both mentally and physically, how to regulate your nervous system and explore your personal needs and those of your child along the way.

Interested in finding balance in your life? You are welcome to book an online Zoom session with me.

My sessions have a duration of 1,5 hour, I am available during weekdays between 10:00-20:30 CET and I charge 90 euro per session.

 

Would you like to receive more information or a free introductory appointment?

I warmly invite you to contact me so we can schedule a complimentary phone or zoom consultation.